
The lives of people are short. In those short lives there are such groups of people, in the hearts of people constantly stirred up layers of ripples. They cried together, laughed, the future they may also go together. They help each other, they support each other, they grow together. Those group of people are friends. Friendship is an indispensable part of life. Friendship is paid instead of asking. To have great friendship is based on high quality communication, selfless dedication and clever rejection.

First at all, high quality communication is major thing during people’s friendship. It is clearly, face to face is a better choice than using devices. “Inevitably, excessive smartphone use drives us away from each other, and we only choose to communicate impersonally and for superficial matters. Somehow, bonding and intimacy no longer appeal to us, making it impossible for us to build any new, sincere relationships.

” said by Barrie Davenport. Messages, pictures, and even video can not replace face to face communication. As a friend, people should learn to listen. When your friend encounters frustration and encounters trouble. He will find an object of emotional excitement, and you as a friend, can sincerely and patiently listen to each other's complaint, is for friends to open an emotional vent. Friends in the process of telling you, you not only patiently listen, and from time to time to insert a couple of emotional comfort words, or friends out of ideas to think about it, the feelings of friends will be out of the swamp. He will feel that you have such a friend is really dependent. Friends will be more deep feelings and friendship will grow with each passing day. Not surprisingly, those who reported communicating more effectively showed the highest satisfaction with their relationships(Francine Russo). Listening always important than speaking. It is clearly too see that high quality communication in addition to face to face dialogue but also learn to listen.

Secondly, selfless is the other main word in friendship. First, people should learn to pay if they want to have friends. For example, spend time to talk with friends. To sustain a relationship it needs to be based on constant give and take, where we think about someone else at least as much as we think about ourselves(Davenport). To give is a basic thing during relationship like friendship. But here is a wrong understanding. Some people think that if people not giving them something there are not friends. In the other words, those people who do not give us things are not our friends. It is a totally wrong way about friendship. A real friendship is giving, but not asking return.

The face of quite a mixed society, the change of nature, who can not guarantee their own everything is not seeking people, who do not boast their own life without danger. People encounter difficulties always want to get someone else to help. So, as a friend, when someone else needs your help, be sure to arrive in time and sincerely reach out to help a friend to help friends through the storm. As long as the principle of this communication, a friend and your friendship will be deepened. In life, any excess things will go to the opposite of it. Friends of the communication between the same is true, in the past is very close, easy to crack, and grasp the degree of moderate, in order to make friendship between friends become eternal. This is because each person has differences in terms of culture, morality, character, attitude to life, potential for work, and family conditions. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is the more frequent communication. The more the secret, pull the greater the contact between friends, whether it is the number of time to get along, distance, etc. Should keep the separation, in order to achieve "something more than enough, the situation is still not" the mood, will the arrival of friends, because friends leave and miss.

There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although friends with your temperament similar to similar interests, but friends is a living person, with you always some differences, there will always be such a lack of. There will always be unwilling to know their own secret. So, with friends, do not be too ideal for friends. Not all friends and words and deeds are "I" as a reference. First of all, to tolerate the shortcomings of friends, so once you find the shortcomings of friends, to hold the "generals can run on horse, the prime minister can punt" generous tolerance, tolerate the shortcomings of friends and choose the right time and method Help him overcome the shortcomings. Second, let friends keep "self". You can communicate with friends, not a friend must be your "replica". Let friends have their own hobbies, their own personality. If you are subjective and arbitrary, ask yourself a friend's hobby, like you, then, friends will leave you. Again, to respect the privacy of friends. Do not let friends tell you everything, it seems that friends do not talk with you, that is, you are not loyal, not enough friends. If you are so arbitrary, with such an idealistic standard to ask a friend, friends will hate you and hate.

Between men and women in addition to love, there should be a place of friendship. There are gender differences between men and women, as long as attention to grasp the size, is the establishment of healthy, elegant, pure friendship between the existence. This requires between men and women colleagues, between men and women and so there is a friendship between the existence. Which requires men and women to grasp the relationship between friendship and love. First, men do not offend women's dignity, should respect the female compatriots personality. Second, both men and women should recognize the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is only men and women between the kind of friendly exchanges and love but have to bear some responsibility to each other, such as family marriage, etc. It has a certain degree of specific binding. Friendship and love between an insurmountable gap. There is no cross-border can be developed in friendship, whether unilateral or both sides if the cross-border will produce men and women, into the stage of love, but once due to some internal and external factors back to friendship will correspond to become "not the same" friendship.

Friends often have something to do with each other, it is justified, and some people rely on things often beyond the scope of the principle and objective reality. For example: some friends ask you to do things beyond your main ability to bear, you can not do anything. There are friends to do things is contrary to your subjective intentions and so on. If you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should be decisively say "no". First of all, you violate the principles of things, you are a few, once the East window incident, you and your friends will be reduced to prisoners or discipline; Second, beyond your ability to bear things, you can do nothing, if not explain the situation to be rejected. Do not refuse, will affect your emotions with you, but also hinder your friends and friends should pay attention to ways and means bluntly lost. The second is a solid description of the situation, so that friends understand your difficulties. Third is a roundabout tactfully disposed of, clever use of other methods to help complete the matter entrusted by friends.

Dating is a common feeling. However, do not deal with friends as a purely for the utilitarian exchanges, friends and friends in addition to something to help each other, there is the exchange of ideas. People are communicating with friends for friendship, but friends may also have another circle of communication in addition to you. Therefore, you must first allow friends to communicate with people who disagree with you. When you find someone who is paying someone else is someone you have friction, you should be generous. If you can not see the eyes of this sand, to blame friends, then friends will be embarrassed. Second, you can not limit the circle of friends only in your space. If you are not willing to be happy, all friends "tied" in your side, can only be counterproductive. You even "tied" to live a friend's body, but "tied" can not live friends heart, friends will most of this resentment and hate, away from you.

In conclusion, friendship based on connect with friends, learn to give and learn to refuse. “Friendships will provide a context for the development of social skills.” said by Thomas J Dishion. Friendship has deep impact for everybody. People could be changed by different friends. It is important to take the time to talk about friendship. For great friendship, a high quality communication is important. Also, contributions for friends do not ask for return is important too. Last, do not forget leave away from people who always request without paying.
